An opening to coaching
This is the actual coaching questionnaire that Margarita sent me, and my answers from Spring 2022. This is the type of vulnerability and growth that are possible in a supportive coaching relationship. Margarita and I accomplished these goals and she helped me to produce this website and step into my value as a coach. Through our business relationship and friendship we are now writing books to help men and women expand love and freedom in their lives. I hope that this example of vulnerability and honesty can inspire others into greater love and freedom as well. I now ask my coaching clients to consider these same questions.
What changes are you looking to bring about in your life? What is hindering you from making those changes?
I am looking to cultivate more inner wellness and peace in my life. My current meditation and affirmation practices are becoming less effective and seem to need to be revised. I believe that incorporating these revised practices and continuing to cultivate village and community with others will help me to soothe and nourish and heal my remaining inner sense of disconnection and loneliness.
What short term goals are you looking to work toward while creating the bigger shifts in your life?
Adding an evening meditation. Adding daily morning exercise and weaning myself off caffeine. Conscious creation of third stage reciprocal relationships with men and women.
Why do you want to make the changes your are looking to make? Where do you source your motivation?
I am looking to make these changes to create more peace and additional consciousness in my life moment to moment and day to day. My motivations come from my desire for freedom coupled with my love and respect of others. As a highly sensitive person and an open minded and loving person I am deeply inspired by others: where others might be more judgmental or threatened or have disdain for certain characteristics I seem to have an open hearted ability to see and encourage the best in others. I very much enjoy authentically connecting with and spending time with and collaborating with others whom I care about and whom I enjoy encouraging and supporting to express themselves most fully. I have always had this desire to create village but recently I recognize that it is linked to my desire for a loving and supportive system to look out for me and a place where I can share my gifts and my love in gratitude. Our softer side seeks to be understood and it is through loving connection with others where we can express ourselves most fully and perhaps work through blockages from childhood trauma; sharing and enjoying and learning and celebrating every day in loving expression of the goodness we all have within.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your current happiness level? What makes you the most happy in your life right now?
9. Utilizing all of my gifts and skills and ability to build love and connection with others with a conscious purpose of Sharing freely with the world in gratitude for my life.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your current stress level? What is causing you stress?
2. The cause of my stress seems to be a background level of habitual emotional uneasiness coupled with residual uncertainty of loving connection with Village
What is a challenging obstacle you have had to overcome in your life thus far? How did you overcome it?
My nice guy behavior was a challenging obstacle and something that we nice guys will always be recovering from. I overcame it by learning about it and understanding myself and recognizing that it’s an anxiety-based disorder. Becoming conscious of all of my needs and working diligently Towards getting them met And creating daily mantras around the four main components which caused the anxiety. Scarcity of time, scarcity of wealth, scarcity of love, scarcity around sex. Practicing abundance and recognizing signs of abundance all around us helped me be able to affirm my adequacy. Becoming more honest with myself allowed me to be able to show up honestly for others And to begin to create conscious relationships with others. I found that there were many people who were willing to help me get my needs met whom I didn’t believe were there before.
What has been your biggest success in your life thus far? How did you achieve it?
Sharing love freely with others and cultivating love and connection every where I go. And then beginning to love myself completely- That has been my biggest success in life so far. I achieved it by being honest and following my heart and applying many of the principles from the four agreements and other popular personal development books.
What does success look like to you?
Success looks different to me today than it did 20 years ago. Then it looked like having a successful marriage and a loving family, A high-paying and engaging career and a thriving in adequacy with my family in the world. Today’s success looks like taking care of myself and being able to show up and be my best. It looks like not beating myself up for mistakes or missed opportunities or perceived self limitations. It is an expression of gratitude for my life. Success is Freedom and peacefulness and loving connection and building supportive relationships with open hearted and interesting people who are inspiring and inspired. Success is recognizing all the ways in which we are loved and smiling and enjoying our life working towards our contentment and fulfillment.
What does support look like to you?
Space, love, and understanding. Recognition of gifts and encouragement to share them widely. Support to me looks like true and honest feedback and is thus trustable and a powerful growth mechanism
Where do you see yourself after a month of coaching with me?
I see myself incorporating into my life some of the minor changes I’ve been writing about here. I see having you as a coach as being beneficial and motivating and inspiring to make these changes and others in my life. Through honest and supportive connection with you I see the possibility for opening Any other blockages that might emerge And in the supportive context described above I believe I can open those areas and lower my level of stress and anxiety and continue working towards my contentment and full expression
What resistance or obstacles are you anticipating and how can I support you?
My ego will likely continue to be a force of resistance and potentially an obstacle. You can support me with your openhearted understanding and encouragement that you naturally share.
If you are ready to answer these questions, please reach out to us. I also urge you to download my eBook The Authentically Grounded Man for more tools and insights into greater freedom and Love.
Joe & Margarita
