The Authentically Grounded Person
The authentically grounded person is a rare thing in our society. This person is by definition connected to village, with a sense of belonging that reinforces an internal sense of adequacy. It seems that for some, success comes naturally, and they don’t have to think much about it. Successful people seem to continue being successful, and those who are not successful rarely learn how to do it. When success doesn’t come naturally, many of us internalize shame and feel “not good enough” on some level. Parts of our lives might be going okay, but in other areas we struggle for one reason or another. We might be doing okay in our career, but our love life might be suffering. Or the opposite could be true. In our program here, we aim to provide tools and insights to address both at the same time.
To me, it seems that the majority of our population is stuck in a perspective of scarcity and self-limiting beliefs of disempowerment. Many of us end up not actively challenging ourselves to be our best. To make things worse, those who are successful are unable to share their insights and wisdom. We seem to have lost some of the supportive traits of early Americans like Benjamin Franklin, who started the first library for the betterment of others and society. Our capitalist system and world economy has somehow produced this dark cloud of scarcity and fear and suspicion of others. It’s a complicated problem, and we touch on many possible solutions here in this program. Another underlying problem we will address is that it seems that men today have fewer routes to their adequacy and to being their best in modern society. I am presenting some powerful solutions to all of these and other difficulties here in this program. I encourage you to stick with me here and test out some of these tools and solutions for yourself: I believe they will work for you just as they have for me. I believe they will help you experience more love and freedom in your life, and you’ll be able to share your insights with your loved ones so that they can live their best lives too. A worthy investment of your time and attention.
I was talking to an attractive and confident woman at a party a few years ago who was dating a buddy of mine. As an active socialite, she spent lots of time out and around town meeting people, going to work and career events, enjoying nice restaurants and clubs. I told her about my men’s program and I asked her, “Of all the guys you meet in a month, what percentage of them carry themselves with a grounded sense of adequacy and confidence in themselves”? She considered what I was getting at and looked me in the eye and said, “Only one guy out of a thousand has that thing you’re talking about – it is very rare!” I told her that the program I was writing is intended to create a lot more of them, and she sarcastically laughed and said, “Good luck with that!”
Okay, here are my thoughts: I know we can do this! I did it myself, and I’m here to show everyone exactly how I did it. Yes, she was correct - it is very rare but I also suspect that she had tried in her life, as many powerful women do, to help guys to believe in themselves, but she found that it doesn’t work that way. In my case, I tried for decades to find a woman to help me love myself, and now I see that does not work either. We have to do this thing for ourselves, and it’s easiest to do it together with others. That’s why this program is based on a book club model - so that we can connect with others and share our experiences in considering the material. It builds the connection necessary to feel seen and appreciated which encourages us to challenge our self-limiting beliefs. Among others, we become inspired to step out of our old perspectives and into what is possible in our lives.
I have done my best to present the material and highlight these benefits that are possible in our lives through being our best and aligning ourselves with our truths. It’s such a beautiful concept and I know that it works. Let’s consider her words as a challenge! Let’s consider the benefits of stepping into our best selves and confidently expressing our ideas with integrity. Let’s work together to study the tools and insights in this program and let’s help each other express our authenticity!
I need your help to carry this message and help others be their best. Many of us just need a little nudge and some new tools. As I describe my approach to reaching guys throughout the book, I urge you to consider the broader application of the wisdom beyond yourself. My delivery might not land with everyone, but my aim is true and overall this program can be very beneficial if we can see beyond our personal drama. Let’s be patient with ourselves and hold space for others as we encourage them consider these concepts for themselves. Let’s learn these ancient tools and insights and apply the ones that make sense to us. Thank you!
All of the tools we need are here to support us on our journey, to experience more joy and connection in our lives. We all make excuses, but let’s not let them impede our progress. In this program, we will learn to do our best and be content with that. We will actually stop making excuses as to why we cannot do things that are important to us. We will make a vow to make 10 attempts at everything we want in life before we give up. Again, we will practice all of this as we connect authentically with others and do the things we enjoy. We will challenge each other while actively supporting each other as we implement these concepts. With the guidance of our friends, we can see each other better than we can see ourselves. In the context of our group, we can even help each other make major life decisions and hold each other accountable to growth on our individual purpose.
That is part of our path to living a rich and rewarding life – sharing it with others and having fun while we are at it. Furthermore, we are much less likely to tolerate mediocrity in others because we know it could undermine our goals and our trajectory in our lives. I have provided this self-guided program to help you and your community to bond and work together on your path to being your most authentically grounded selves.
The Authentically Grounded Person is by definition connected to their village, with a sense of belonging that reinforces our internal sense of adequacy. We cultivate an assuredness that we are loved and valued and can get all of our needs met through our connections and contributions to the village. The loving support and shared admiration of our fellow villagers helps us be more resilient in the face of difficulty. We can strive for big things and take on more responsibility with this support. We carry ourselves more confidently, and we are not afraid to speak our authentic truths: we demonstrate our strength and prowess in our character. In this way, we live from a place of fullness and more easily recognize opportunities for growth and attract others to our stability.
From: The Joy of Authentic Expression: A Guide to Peace, Adequacy, and Connection Through Love
By Joe Moulis
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